Luke 2:41-52
December 27, 2015
My
two oldest nephews loved to watch the movie, Home Alone, when they
were little. My nephew, Jordan, especially loved it because he really liked
“the traps.” I have vivid memories of Jordan and my dad sitting on the sofa
together with a bowl of popcorn between them watching Home Alone and laughing and laughing.
Just
in case you know nothing about this movie, it tells the story of a little boy
named Kevin who was accidentally left home alone over Christmas. His large
extended family was taking a trip to Paris for the holidays and in the shuffle
of wrangling so many kids and adults into airport shuttles and onto a plane,
Kevin got left behind. When the rest of the family finally makes it safely on
the airplane, Kevin’s mom keeps thinking that she forgot something. But she
can’t figure out what. After the plane takes off and is ascending to cruising
altitude, Kevin’s mother suddenly sits up from her seat and screams, “Kevin!”
In the meantime Kevin is home alone but holding his own. He manages to reunite
a cantankerous old neighbor with his estranged son, and fend off robbers who discover
that this little kid is home and unsupervised. They think that this house will
be an easy target, but they’ve never met a kid like Kevin before. That’s where
the traps come in.
In
order for this story to be plausible you have to believe that an entire family
could leave home, board a plane for another country and forget one of their
children. Although I think the movie is funny, before I had children I couldn’t
imagine anyone forgetting their child. Then I became a mom. It’s not that I
have forgotten my children somewhere, but losing a kid in a crowded mall or
even outside in the backyard happens. I know.
I
know and because I know, I can relate to the panic and fear Mary and Joseph
must have felt in today’s gospel story. This
is a story unique to Luke, and it is the only story we have in our canon of
Jesus as a child. While Kevin in Home
Alone was eight, Jesus was twelve. According to Jewish custom, twelve was still
a child, but Jesus was on the cusp of manhood so he should have known enough
not to get separated from his parents. As implied in the text, Mary and Joseph
were devout Jews and they made the trip to Jerusalem to Passover as religious
law required. It was about a three day
trip on foot. They would have traveled
in a large company of extended family and fellow sojourners. So when they headed for home, I can see how
they would have thought Jesus was with other family members. I suspect that the
idea of “it takes a village to raise a child” was more than just a nice saying
at that time. So even if they weren’t minding Jesus, they certainly believed
another person in their group was. What a terrible shock to go and look for him
only to discover that he was nowhere to be found. Nowhere! Everyone thought he
was with someone else. I don’t care who you are or in what period of time you
live, when your child is missing, you’re terrified. Mary and Joseph would have
felt the same sick feeling of fear and panic that any of us would feel if our
child went missing. Jesus was gone. So they turned around and headed back the
way they came. Indeed they retraced their steps all the way back to Jerusalem.
They searched for three days. Three days! Finally they found him in the temple sitting
with the rabbis. Not only was he listening to and questioning the teachers
around him, he was amazing them with his wisdom and understanding.
Can
you imagine the absolute relief Mary and Joseph felt when they saw him sitting
there? Oh thank heavens, he’s safe! After their panic subsided, can you also
imagine the anger they felt when they saw him sitting there?
Mary’s first words
to her son were much calmer and far more restrained than mine would have been.
“Child, why have
you treated us like this? Look, your
father and I have been searching for you in great anxiety.” Jesus responds, “Why were you searching for
me? Did you not know that I must be in
my Father’s house?”
They didn’t
understand the meaning or point of his words, but he goes back to Nazareth with
them and obeys them from that point on.
Once
when I was a teenager, my mother asked me where I was going and I said, “Out.” I don’t recall her exact reply, but it was
definitely not an affirmation of my independence. What would she have said had
she and my dad been looking for me for three days and I had responded as Jesus
did. “Why were you searching for me?”
I
realize that the title of my sermon is a bit misleading. Jesus wasn’t a
teenager in this story. Teenagers as we understand them didn’t exist then. But
do I hear a bit of adolescent tone in his voice? In the past when I have
preached sermons on this passage, my answer has been, “Absolutely not!” Jesus
was not being a smart alec teen. He was not sassing his parents. He was just
being who he was. He was just being Jesus, the Son of God.
But
why wouldn’t he have been giving them attitude? Why wouldn’t Jesus have been
acting and thinking and speaking as an adolescent? He was human. He was
probably well into puberty. Even though children then may not have acted like
the teenagers we know – and love – they were still teenagers. They were still
trying to figure out what it meant to become adults. They were still making
that rather rocky transition from childhood to adulthood. Was Jesus any
different?
Here’s
the thing: when it comes to Jesus’ humanity, we embrace him as being born a
baby and we cling tightly to his human death on a cross in his 30’s. Yet when
it comes to that time in between, maybe we are a little bit glad that we do not
have more stories from his childhood. Because then we would have to deal with
his being a child, and a teenager and a young man. What does it mean that Jesus
was fully human as a child and a teenager and a young man? He probably fell
down a few times learning how to walk. He most likely got tired and needed
naps. Maybe he broke a bowl or a lamp and was afraid to tell his parents so he
claimed ignorance. Perhaps the mythical creature Idunno lived in Jesus’ home as well. Maybe he liked a girl. Maybe
his skin broke out. Maybe he felt guilt over something he did or didn’t do.
Maybe he felt regret or remorse. Maybe he was just as awkward and gangly and
silly and goofy and sassy as the rest of us when he was growing up.
That’s
the reality of our belief that Jesus was fully human as well as divine. Jesus
had to grow up. Jesus was born in the messy way that we are all born, and as we
well know, the messiness doesn’t end when the baby is cleaned up and handed to
his mama. Life just gets messier and messier.
Yet
isn’t that what is so wonderful and astonishing and powerful about the
incarnation? It means that God was born into the mess. Believing that Jesus was
and is the Son of God does not mitigate the fact that he had to grow up, same
as us. He wasn’t born as a human then floated through childhood. He didn’t walk
across the water of adolescence. He had to grow up. He was a child. He was a
teenager. Childhood is messy for a multitude of reasons. Adolescence is messy
for many more. In adolescence we are trying to figure out who we are and why we
are. We are trying to become our own person. In more psychological terms, we
are trying to differentiate from our parents and our family of origin. Isn’t
that what Jesus is doing here? He was not only growing up; he was growing into
who he truly was and who he would become. We hear at the end of our passage
that Jesus continued to increase and grow in wisdom. It seems to me that his
staying behind at the temple was to do just that. He was trying to increase and
grow and become who he truly was – and is. Perhaps he thought the same thing
that every teenager has thought for ages? “My parents just don’t understand.”
So maybe there was
some teenage snark in his response to his parents. I like to think that there
was. Because that is one more example of his being as human as I am. Jesus had
to grow up. He had to increase in his wisdom and understanding.
Knowing
that the One who came for my sake also had to grow up, to increase in his wisdom
gives me hope; not just that my own teenagers will do the same, but that I will
do the same. I am much wiser at 50 than I was at 30. Certainly I am wiser than
I was at 20, only I would not have believed that then. But I know that with all
I know, there is so much more that I do not know. I continue to need to
increase – in my wisdom, in my prayers, in my compassion, in my love.
Jesus
had to grow up. Jesus had to increase in wisdom and understanding. So do I. So
do we all. Thanks be to God for this story that reminds us that increasing in
wisdom is a lifelong adventure. And thanks be to God for loving us so much that
he was born into this messy life and grew up in this messy world and lived this
messy human existence; not for his sake but for ours.
Let
all of God’s children say, “Alleluia!” Amen.